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Download and read online Beyond Consequences Logic and Control in PDF and EPUB Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control covers in detail the effects of trauma on the body-mind and how trauma alters children's behavioral responses. The first four chapters help parents and professionals clearly understand the neurological research behind the basic model given in this book, deemed, 'The Stress Model.' While scientifically based in research, it is written in an easy to understand and easy to grasp format for anyone working with or parenting children with severe behaviors. The next seven chapters are individually devoted to seven behaviors typically seen with attachment-challenged children. These include lying, stealing, hoarding and gorging, aggression, defiance, lack of eye contact, and yes, even a chapter that talks candidly about how parents appear hostile and angry when they work to simply maintain their families from reaching complete states of chaos. Each of these chapters talks in depth on these specific behaviors and gives vivid and contrasting examples of how this love-based approach works to foster healing and works to develop relationships, as opposed to the fear-based traditional attachment parenting approaches that are being advocated in today's attachment field. The authors end with a Parenting Bonus Section: true testimonials from parents who have been able to make significant changes in their homes with this model of parenting, giving real-life examples of how they have been able to find the healing, peace, and love that they had been seeking prior to working through the techniques outlined in this book.
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Download and read online Wounded Children Healing Homes in PDF and EPUB Why doesn’t our child return our love? What are we failing to understand? What are we failing to do? These questions can fill the minds of adoptive parents caring for wounded, traumatized children. Families often enter into this experience with high expectations for their child and for themselves but are broadsided by shattered assumptions. This book addresses the reality of those unmet expectations and offers validation and solutions for the challenges of parenting deeply traumatized and emotionally disturbed children.
Download and read online When Rain Hurts in PDF and EPUB A story of love blooming in even the most hostile environments, When Rain Hurts tells of one mother's quest to find a path of healing and forgiveness for her adopted son, a boy made feral by prenatal alcohol abuse and the stark rigors of Russian orphanage life.
Download and read online Parenting in the Eye of the Storm in PDF and EPUB Adult adoptee and family therapist Katie Naftzger shares her personal and professional wisdom in this guide to help adoptive parents remain a calm parental influence in the midst of stormy and erratic teen behavior. This guide describes the essential skills you need to help your adopted teen confidently face the challenges of growing up and outlines four key goals for adoptive parents: · To move from rescuing to responding · To set adoption-sensitive limits and ground rules · To have connecting conversations · To help your teen envision their future Parenting in the Eye of the Storm contains invaluable insights for adoptive parents and simple strategies you can use to prepare your adopted teen for the journey ahead and strengthen the family bond in the process. It provides answers, guidance and understanding - working as a road-map through the tempestuous teenage years.
Download and read online Journey Of The Adopted Self in PDF and EPUB Betty Jean Lifton, whose Lost and Found has become a bible to adoptees and to those who would understand the adoption experience, explores further the inner world of the adopted person. She breaks new ground as she traces the adopted child's lifelong struggle to form an authentic sense of self. And she shows how both the symbolic and the literal search for roots becomes a crucial part of the journey toward wholeness.
Download and read online A Place I Didn t Belong in PDF and EPUB Unmet expectations, our children's compromised beginnings, and the wounds we ourselves carry into adoptions conspire to take us to a place we didn't belong. By exchanging our lies for God's truth, emotional healing and spiritual renewal assures us we can be OK when our kids are not! Delivering ourselves into our Father's arms, we can reclaim the journey that starts in our own hearts.
Download and read online Adoptive Parent Intentional Parent in PDF and EPUB Adoptive Parent Intentional Parent: A Formula for Building and Maintaining Your Child's Safety Net is an invaluable tool that adoptive parents will use over and over again. Whether you are in the "waiting stage" or you are two, four, six, or even ten plus years into your adoption...this book will to enable you to reframe your situation with a clear vision, new knowledge, tools that work, and the support of others who have walked the path before you. Every child who has been adopted has suffered a breech in attachment; no adopted child is exempt. In addition to attachment issues, some children also suffer with difficult behavior issues amongst diagnoses such as RAD, FAS, and those that suffer with grief, anxiety, sensory issues and the effects of trauma. The author's breakthrough concept of intentionally creating a safety net to help your child heal fills the books entirety. The four-part formula for Building and Maintaining that safety net is laid out in a detailed and user-friendly fashion. It combines the value of knowing yourself, the power of knowledge, specific tools and techniques that work in everyday life and the keys to maintaining the net over time to create a plan you can put in to motion today.
Download and read online Another Place at the Table in PDF and EPUB For more than a decade, Kathy Harrison has sheltered a shifting cast of troubled youngsters - the offspring of prostitutes, addicts, abusers, and teenage parents who can't handle parenthood. What would motivate someone to give herself over to constant, largely uncompensated chaos? How does she manage her extraordinary blended family? Why would anyone voluntarily take on her job?
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Download and read online Affirming the Birth Mother s Journey in PDF and EPUB Counselors working with women facing crisis pregnancies have an opportunity to present a positive alternative - open adoption. This book enables CPC counselors to support women throughout the entire adoption process.
Download and read online Confessions of an Adoptive Parent in PDF and EPUB For parents of adopted or foster children, life presents its own unique set of challenges and struggles. Get the hope and encouragement you need to succeed in your one-of-a-kind parenting role and be reminded that you are not alone on your journey.
Download and read online Broken Links Enduring Ties in PDF and EPUB Family-making in America is in a state of flux—the ways people compose their families is changing, including those who choose to adopt. Broken Links, Enduring Ties is a groundbreaking comparative investigation of transnational and interracial adoptions in America. Linda Seligmann uncovers the impact of these adoptions over the last twenty years on the ideologies and cultural assumptions that Americans hold about families and how they are constituted. Seligmann explores whether or not new kinds of families and communities are emerging as a result of these adoptions, providing a compelling narrative on how adoptive families thrive and struggle to create lasting ties. Seligmann observed and interviewed numerous adoptive parents and children, non-adoptive families, religious figures, teachers and administrators, and adoption brokers. The book uncovers that adoption—once wholly stigmatized—is now often embraced either as a romanticized mission of rescue or, conversely, as simply one among multiple ways to make a family.
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